Who's still single?

I look at several of my female friends who are still single; I guess the ratio of single, Chinese-Malaysian women over 35 has been increasing gradually year by year. When I was kidding that I might run a ‘match maker’ business, I realized I don’t see many ‘good quality’ single men over 35 around! I might get poor if I depend on this kind of business!

I was also quite ‘old’ when I met Steve. Steve jokingly said, “Aren’t Malaysian men smart?” Ha-ha… does he mean he has good taste/smart in some way? When he knew I had several single female friends, he wondered: What’s wrong with Malaysian men? Why are there so many wonderful women who are still single?

I think men and women are equal in society nowadays; women have become more independent. Even though they want to have a partner, sometimes they also want to follow their ideas or dreams. So they dare not ‘invest’ in an uncertain marriage; they no longer marry simply to be married. I think men do not have as much inner freedom compared to women. Mostly men just follow the expectations of society – if other people do something, they also need to do it. They reach the age for marriage, so they want to get married. I have heard that some who can’t find a girlfriend can pay to get a Vietnamese wife if they have money.

Of course, there are still several wonderful men looking for their soul mates, but where are they?

从我身边现有不少单身女性朋友，我猜想马来西亚35岁以上的华裔单身女性数据似乎逐年增多，当我开玩笑说可以开 ‘婚姻介绍所’ 时，我发觉到其实要找35岁以上有 ‘素质’ 的单身男性确不是容易遇到的！要想靠这门生意找饭吃，可难罗！

我也是很 ‘大年级’ 才遇到Steve，Steve 玩笑说: “马来西亚的男性不聪明？” 哈…换句话说他是在赞自己有眼光吗？当他知道我有不少单身女性朋友，他疑惑的说: 马来西亚的男性怎么啦？为什么有这么多好女人还单身？

我想现今男女社会平等，女性已渐渐自主，虽然渴望有个伴侣，但往往被自己的理念及追求自己的理想，而不敢 ‘投资’ 在没有保障的婚姻，或宁可不屈就的随便嫁人。我想男性在自我心智上较不比女性自由，男性多趋向随着社会的评价生存，人有我也有的概念，走到人生的某阶段，适婚就娶，听说有些找不到女友的，只要有钱，就可买越南女当老婆。

当然，还是会有不少好男人在寻找着伴侣，可是，他们在那儿？